Archive for October, 2014

What Giant Pandas Taught Me About Parenting

Posted by on Friday, 24 October, 2014

What Giant Pandas Taught Me About Parenting
News from Smithsonian:

Nicole MacCorkle, a giant panda keeper at Smithsonian’s National Zoo, says the animals have taught her about parenting.

If you had told me years ago that I would spend my days working with giant pandas, let alone be the senior giant panda keeper at the Smithsonian’s National Zoo, I would have laughed in your face. But as recently as 10 years ago, even more unlikely to me was the notion that I would become a mom. “My work is really exhausting, and that’s why I don’t have children,” I told my college’s alumni newsletter in 2006. But in 2011, my daughter, Chloe, was born, and I realized just how much my 17 years of animal keeping and training would come in handy. It turned out that the skills that made me a good animal keeper, which the animals helped me develop over the years, went a long way in learning how to care for a growing human. Below are some of the things I’ve learned.

Keep Your Expectations Realistic

Even before she was born, I knew my daughter would be a rambunctious child. A friend of mine had described pregnancy as feeling like butterflies tickling the inside of her stomach. For me, it felt more like a hamster running on a wheel. The Christmas before Chloe was born, she kicked me so hard that the force s…………… continues on Smithsonian

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The Embarrassing American Parenting Fail
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When it comes to public image, the millennial generation isn’t exactly knocking the cover off the ball. Just Google something like “Millennials are the worst” and you’ll see headlines labeling the 14-34 age demographic as “deluded narcissists,” “America’s worst generation,” and, somewhat hilariously, people whom Pizza Hut marketers apparently find “super boring.” The New York Times, meanwhile, recently took a higher road by couching its mild disdain in concern: “Can Millennials Stand a Chance in the Real World?”

Unfortunately, if you’ve been following the byzantine new “affirmative consent” regulations surrounding college sex, you might reasonably think the answer is a firm and resounding no. Enshrined as law in California and embraced by hundreds of American colleges, the new rules require a clear consent or “yes” for each stage of sexual involvement. If you fail to micromanage your amorous liaisons accordingly, you could be looking at a rape charge.

In a piece for this Sunday’s New York Times Magazine—“Hooking Up at an Affirmative-Consent Campus? It’s Complicated”—writer Emily Bazelon details the emerging sexual ethics struggle at Yale University. Unfortunately, at first glance, the problems at Yale could easily be mistaken for an elaborate prank.

Bazelon’s article opens with a university-sponsored workshop that challenged stud…………… continues on RealClearPolitics

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‘No rescue’ parenting is the anti-helicopter

Posted by on Tuesday, 21 October, 2014

‘No rescue’ parenting is the anti-helicopter
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The hardest year of parenting
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Some will argue that it’s the very first year of life. It’s hazing that brings new parents to their knees, shock therapy for the 18 years ahead.

That’s when parenting is most demanding, some say – in those around-the-clock blurry days and nights.

But there’s a reason the next stage is called the “terrible twos” – a time of meltdowns, the oft-repeated “No!” and high-speed chases, always potentially damaging to body and property.

If you escape the horribleness of the twos, the threes will get you, someone always chimes in.

So when does it get easier? And which is the most difficult age to raise a child, truly?

As the mother of a newly minted 12-year-old girl, I keep hearing the words of an older colleague haunting my difficult days: Little people, little problems. Big people, big problems, he liked to say.

The longest year may vary by gender and temperament. But a fair number of parents of daughters have warned me that there’s a special kind of torment that happens around the ages of 12 to 14.

It was the sage Nora Ephron who advised getting a dog when your children hit their teens.

“When your children are teenagers, it’s important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you,” she wrote.

St. Louis-area clinical social worker Debbie Granick has two daughters, ages 12 and 14, and a 16-year-old…………… continues on News & Observer

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What parenting REALLY looks like: Readers share their messiest moments

Posted by on Friday, 17 October, 2014

What parenting REALLY looks like: Readers share their messiest moments
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Pioneering Mt. Airy rabbi publishes guide to parenting
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Single mom and Rabbi Julie Greenberg, 57, has always lived a life characterized by passionate activism. (Photo by Mary Nearpass)

by Mary Nearpass

When Mt. Airy’s Julie Greenberg, 57, was in her mid-20s, studying to be a rabbi and living in a feminist world of non-traditional relationships, she wondered how she would create a family. As a single woman engaged in passionate activism, Greenberg had always planned on becoming a mother.

More than 30 years later, Julie, who says she is currently not living with a partner, has parented her five children within a web of connection that has included women lovers, a gay male parenting partner, birth parents, sperm donors, multiracial children and beloved friends. Pulsing through her non-traditional family life is a commitment to spirituality, justice work and mothering. Her children are Rosi, 27, Raffi, 24, Zoe, 23, Joey, 18, and Mozi, 14.

We recently discussed her new book, “Just Parenting: Building the World One Family at a Time,” which is packed with ideas for conscio…………… continues on Chestnut Hill Local

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http://www.familymatterstv.com/season-2/parenting-teens There’s nothing that can truly prepare you for the role of being a parent. And when your children rea…

The Key To Successful Parenting: Ignore Your Children – The Federalist

Posted by on Saturday, 11 October, 2014

The Key To Successful Parenting: Ignore Your Children – The Federalist
News from The Key To Successful Parenting: Ignore Your Children – The Federalist:

Children are truly a frightening proposition. They’re expensive. They’re a source of joy. But they’re also little demons. Regardless, many of us still choose to have them, sometimes even on purpose. Kudos all around. Learning to let go of our illusions of control and to embrace the unpredictability that is life with kids was a tough step, but we made it. Now we move on to managing that unpredictability, to maintaining our homes with those destructive little balls of chaos running around, wrecking up the joint. Fortunately, it’s easy to love our progeny, even if we don’t particularly like them at any given moment. This is an important evolutionary adaptation. If our love for them were conditional, we wouldn’t be here right now. We would have left the Garden and promptly embraced extinction. But we didn’t embrace extinction, we do love them, and thus we find ourselves with a new challenge: ignoring those tiny terrors and focusing our energy on our wives.

If we truly want to build a solid home for the littlest members of our little platoons, if we want to teach them invaluable lessons they can carry into their own relationships, then ignoring them is the only choice we have. For if we are to provide an example of how they should properly love their future partners, we must be aloof fathers; our priority is the women, our women, their mothers. The…………… continues on The Key To Successful Parenting: Ignore Your Children – The Federalist

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‘It’s Like They Know Us’ Tumblr totally nails ‘perfect’ parenting
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Oct. 8, 2014 at 9:48 AM ET

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Parenting measure burdens women

Posted by on Sunday, 5 October, 2014

Parenting measure burdens women
News from Bismarck Tribune:

2014-10-05T02:00:00Z Parenting measure burdens womenBy LLOYD OMDAHL Bismarck Tribune

On August 19, we received a message from one of the major supporters of Measure 6 — the equal parenting measure — threatening us with a lawsuit if we wrote anything that he thought was false. We still have the email as it was sent.

As readers may recall, a parenting measure was on the ballot in 2006 and was defeated. At that time, advocates of the measure tried to shut us up by bringing a lawsuit against us.

This attempt to abridge our First Amendment rights was dismissed by the court and will be dismissed again if the threatened lawsuit is filed.

In any case, we will not be bullied into silence. Therefore, we will proceed with a candid discussion of the measure.

Divorce is a messy business, very emotional for parents and traumatic for children. Parents lose perspective and are unable to deal objectively with the consequences of separation.

That is why the objectivity of the court system is critical in overseeing the negotiation process between separating parents.

In order to settle the issue of parenting time, both parents are required to make conc…………… continues on Bismarck Tribune

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Local View: Parenting Act helps parents and children through legal and family …
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James Bocott’s Local View article (LJS, Sept. 18) suggested that mandatory mediation be repealed in custody cases. While this letter does not offer an opinion on Mr. Bocott’s argument, it does provide additional background on the Parenting Act and the credentialing of parenting mediators.

Under the Parenting Act, amended in 2007, mediation is not mandatory for parents who are able to agree on parenting issues, whether between themselves, through the voluntary use of mediation, or with their attorneys, before going to a contested custody trial. In a divorce or separation, it is best to keep children out of the middle of parental conflict and spare them from having to appear in court. It is for this reason that the Legislature amended the Parenting Act to require parents to try mediation before going to a contested custody trial.

The parents’ plan describes, item-by-item, how the parents wish to structure their parenting so that the children are well cared for from separate homes and both parents have an active role in their lives. In mediation, the mediator assists the parents to calmly and constructively make decisions about the issues in their parenting plan. The mediator is not a judge: they cannot tell the parents what to do or make a decision for either parent. Rather, the mediator provides a safe, productive setting for the parents to deal with emoti…………… continues on Lincoln Journal Star

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10 apps to make your parenting life easier

Posted by on Saturday, 4 October, 2014

10 apps to make your parenting life easier
News from Washington Post:

October 2

Can’t get those pictures in albums? Need a clean restroom stat? There’s an app for that. (Kiyoshi Ota/Bloomberg)

We have all heard that saying “There’s an app for that!” It turns out that is true for just about everything. From finding a clean restroom to managing the family calendar, these must-have apps make the life of a busy mom a little bit easier:
1.) Sit or Squat – This app from Charmin (yes the toilet paper company) finds public restrooms near you, rates cleanliness, and provides changing table information. Perfect when on the go, traveling, and potty training.
2.) Canvsly – Canvsly allows you to upload and organize your kids’ artwork. You can cr…………… continues on Washington Post

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5 Myths about Parenting

Posted by on Friday, 3 October, 2014

5 Myths about Parenting
News from PsychCentral.com:

Parenting tips are aplenty. It can seem like there’s a new trend every week boasting about the best way to raise your kids or warning about the worst. With so many prescriptions for good parenting, naturally, it can quickly get confusing and frustrating. Below, we asked two psychologists to share the most common myths — and facts — about parenting today.

1. Myth: If your kids aren’t happy, something is very wrong.

In our culture, there’s a strong emphasis on happiness, so if your kids aren’t happy most of the time or in certain situations, parents start to worry. But it’s normal and healthy for kids to feel lots of highs and lows, said Jessica Michaelson, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and founder of Honest Parenthood, who specializes in early parent-child relationships.

This “is much richer and real than a monochromatic ‘happy’ lif…………… continues on PsychCentral.com

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A talk given by Dr Sue Gerhardt at the Play Therapy World Congress in 2010 on the importance of good parenting in early child development.

Parenting as a Gen Xer: We’re the first generation of parents in the age of …

Posted by on Wednesday, 1 October, 2014

Parenting as a Gen Xer: We’re the first generation of parents in the age of …
News from Washington Post:

September 29

The author’s kids — at dinner. (Allison Tate Slater)

On the days that I drive the middle school carpool, I purposely choose a route that takes us past a huge river. Some mornings, the water looks like glass; others, it reflects the moody clouds above with choppy waves – either way, it’s gorgeous. Every time we drive past it, I point it out to my car full of 12-year-olds: “Look at the water today. Isn’t it beautiful?” No one in the car looks up. They are all looking down at their phones, playing games with each other, texting a friend or watching a YouTube video. Sometimes, if I am lucky, I will get a mercy grunt out of one or two of them in reply.

It struck me recently, after one of my quiet carpool rides, that my generation of parents – we of the soon-to-be or recently 40 year old Gen X variety, the former latchkey children of the Cold War and…………… continues on Washington Post

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