Archive for March, 2014

Parenting Matters: 360 Youth Services talks about shame and guilt

Posted by on Tuesday, 25 March, 2014

Parenting Matters: 360 Youth Services talks about shame and guilt
News from Aurora Beacon News:

Margot Smith, clinical director for 360 Youth Services.

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Updated: March 24, 2014 6:05PM

Welcome to the Collaborative Youth Team’s column, “Parenting Matters!” The Collaborative Youth Team is a partnership of 24 youth and family service organizations and agencies that are here to serve you. Each month, a different partner will offer practical tips for restoring balance within our families and for building resiliency in our youth. This month’s column is shared by Margot Smith, clinical director for 360 Youth Services.

Parenting: guilt, fear and inadequacy are par for the course, especially when comparing ourselves to friends, bloggers or dreamy pictures on Pinterest.

Or even through direct comparison, such as when we are judged or shamed by other parents. Maybe you have even done the judging or shaming.

Why do we directly or passive aggressively war with each other, when we are all just fumb…………… continues on Aurora Beacon News

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What springtime can teach us about parenting
News from Wicked Local Stoneham:

Springtime is finally here. Aside from a date on a calendar telling us it’s so, there are some key things that happen signifying the change in seasons. There is, of course the longer, warmer days, the plants begin to come back to life, and then there is my favorite sign that spring is here: birds. Birds are one of God’s many creatures that I look at in absolute wonderment, and not for the reasons you might be thinking. Of course, I love to watch how effortlessly and freely birds glide across the blue sky. And just like you, I love opening my window in the morning to fill my house with the beautiful serenades of the sparrow. However, the thing I love most about birds, is what they teach us about parenting. Allow me to explain: First, they protect their young before birth. As a long-distance trail runner, I venture daily to the mountains near my home. While there, I see myriad birds, particularly eagles, crows and magpies with a few hundred pigeons and sparrows here and there. There is one particular run that I do frequently in the spring, just so I can watch the ravens build a nest for their eggs. The mother and father will take turns gathering sticks and building the nest. One will drop the sticks at the bottom of the tree (well, telephone pole in this case), and the other will weave it through, building the nest. This is not a process tha…………… continues on Wicked Local Stoneham

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‘Balanced’ parenting sometimes harmful

Posted by on Sunday, 23 March, 2014

‘Balanced’ parenting sometimes harmful
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Terrific Parenting: Why so much sibling conflict?
News from The Saratogian:

Many aspects of parenting are challenging. None is more challenging that having kids that bicker, complain, fight and constantly tattle on each other. Are some children more provocative and actually seek conflict? Yes. Are some siblings seemingly destined to be at each other constantly? Yes.

However, we can change what appears to be sibling disharmony and anger through a change in strategy. But first, let’s discuss the mistakes that make things worse.

Mistakes that make sibling battles worse

1. Trying to constantly protect from injury or harm

When we fear injury or harm, because one sibling is larger or more aggressive, the tendency is to start jumping in to their squabbles. The more consistently we do this, our energy flows to the aggressor with reprimands or threats, and while we may have won the battle, we will surely lose the war with this approach.

Why? Because your attention is repeatedly feeding energy into the problem. The negative behavior is strengthened and reinforced by these constant reprimands and threats. Over time, it is guaranteed that these negative patterns escalate. Many of you have already noticed this.

In addition, a larger problem often emerges. By constantly protecting the smaller child, you inevitable teach that child to become inept at protecting themselves. Over time, they actually be…………… continues on The Saratogian

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21 Questionable Parenting Moments: Think of the Children! – The Hollywood Gossip

Posted by on Saturday, 22 March, 2014

21 Questionable Parenting Moments: Think of the Children! – The Hollywood Gossip
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Admittedly, that’s pretty bad, like super bad, but many of the 21 questionable parenting moments below are worse. WAY worse.

Dangling your kid into a pit of raccoons? Smoking with your toddler and taking pictures?

And then there’s that mom in the car burned into our brains…

These 21 questionable parenting moments make even Kate Gosselin look like Mother Theresa.

21 Questionable Parenting Moments

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Death by irresponsible parenting, bureaucratic inaction
News from Bradenton Herald:

Just after the sun set, the family and closest friends of Ashton-Lynette Arnold gathered in an otherwise abandoned parking lot to mark the first anniversary of her death.

The 5-year-old had swallowed pills at the home of her mother’s friends. Soon, she complained of stomach pains, dizziness and wobbly legs. For hours, nothing was done.

On the evening of October 22, 2013, in Inglis, Fla., Donovan Shelton, 17, helps his mother Stacy Molinelli launch a heart-shaped paper lantern during a small memorial service to remember 5-year-old Ashton-Lynette Arnold on the one-year anniversary of the her death.

Ashton’s heart stopped beating at 4:56 p.m. that Monday as her mother, Elizabeth Rydbom, and Rydbom’s partner huddled in a hospital waiting room, trying to figure out which pill or pills she might have ingested.

Four people, including Rydbom, were charged in the death of Ashton, whose short childhood was chronicled in the files of the Florida Department of Children & Families. The department investigated multiple claims of her mother’s drug use and of inadequate supervision.

“DCF has been in Ashton’s life almost since she was born. They investigated, but they never followed up,” said Ashton’s grandmother, Stacy Molinelli. “They simply suggested a drug addict not to take drugs and take a parenting class. Had they followed up, had they spen…………… continues on Bradenton Herald

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What is the most effective parenting style for black boys?

Posted by on Friday, 21 March, 2014

What is the most effective parenting style for black boys?
News from Newsworks.org:

Building upon the buzz surrounding their documentary, “American Promise,” Joe Brewster and Michele Stevenson asked Mt. Airy author Hilary Beard to help them research and co-author a companion book.

That book, “Promises Kept: Raising Black Boys to Succeed in School and in Life,” was the focus of Beard’s talk Tuesday night at Friends’ Central School.

The auditorium at the school was brimming with eager parents, students, and educators as Beard pulled from solid research and scores of interviews to highlight “what works” in parenting and educating black boys.

Beard spent some time addressing the familiar achievement gap issues while also debunking some long-held misconceptions, including statistics that show there are more black males in college than in prison and more black children in gifted & talented programs than in special education.

But the bulk of the talk was focused on parenting styles and strategies that have been proven most effective in supporting black boys.

Beard laid out the four basic parenting styles, all a mixture of how…………… continues on Newsworks.org

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Death by irresponsible parenting, bureaucratic inaction
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Rigid parenting style linked to obese kids

Posted by on Thursday, 20 March, 2014

Rigid parenting style linked to obese kids
News from CBS News:

Kids with demanding parents who are rigid about rules, stingy with affection and won’t discuss limits are far more likely to be obese than children whose parents practice a more balanced parenting style, new research suggests.

Canadian scientists found that obesity rates were about one-third higher in children up to age 11 whose parents used a so-called “authoritarian” parenting style, marked by inflexibility over rules and a lack of emotional responsiveness. In a group of more than 37,000 children, these kids were significantly heavier compared to those whose “authoritative” parents were generally affectionate, willing to discuss behavior limits and set healthy boundaries.

“These findings are consistent with what’s been found for other dimensions of children’s health — that an authoritative parenting style [compared to an “authoritarian” approach] is the best one for children’s health,” said study author Lisa Kakinami, a postdoctoral epidemiologist at McGill University in Montreal.

“Parents with that style are also less likely to have children engaging in risky behaviors,” Kakinami said. “The results are what we expected, but it’s nice to see it show up in thi…………… continues on CBS News

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Why One Mother Gave Back Her Adopted Son
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A difficult decision was the right choice for Stacey Conner’s family.

Stacey Conner, a 41-year-old mom and former attorney from Spokane, Wash., dreamed of having a large family with biological and adopted kids. “The world is a big place with a lot of children in it; we wanted to bring some of those into our family, to give our love to kids without it,” she says. After she volunteered in an orphanage in poverty-torn Haiti in 2005, Conner and her husband, Matt, a pharmacist, decided to adopt two children. But the process was so slow that by October 2006, when they brought home their (unrelated) 5-year-old Haitian son and 1-year-old Haitian daughter, Conner had given birth to a son, who was 1. “Having an instant multicultural family was magical,” Conner says, “for about two weeks.”

Her older son, whom she calls J here, “engaged every person he met — he literally crawled into the laps of strangers,” says Conner. “But if I said ‘It’s time to go’ or anything that asserted I was in control, he’d rage, bang and scream for hours.” Very quickly, Conner had a sinking feeling she tried to push away. “I was committing the worst maternal sin: I felt like I loved one child less than the others.”

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Hug more, scold less: Strict parenting linked to child obesity

Posted by on Wednesday, 19 March, 2014

Hug more, scold less: Strict parenting linked to child obesity
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The Best Parenting Advice I Ever ReceivedSmile. A lot.
News from ChristianityToday.com:

People sometimes ask me what I’ve “done right” with Penny. They ask because Penny reads and goes to ballet class and practices piano and orders her own meal when we eat at a restaurant. They ask because she is “high functioning.” I suspect many people assume we’ve coached her well or stimulated her brain with special gizmos or put in hours of hours of extra therapy. We’ve certainly done our best, and I couldn’t be more grateful for the therapists and doctors who have helped and advised us along the course of her life. But I know plenty of parents who have done more for their kids and whose kids don’t appear, from the outside, as capable as Penny. The only thing I am willing to say that we have “done right” is to smile at her. To take great delight in who she is.

It started when Penny was three months old. Peter and I left her at home with my mother. I brought my breast pump with me to the conference, a one-day series of inspirational and informative talks for parents of children with Down syndrome. It was there—in that crowded auditorium, filled with eager and anxious parents scribbling notes—that I heard a lecture from Dr. Gerard Mahoney about something called “Responsive Teaching.”

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WILLIAMS: Changing the conversation on parenting

Posted by on Wednesday, 19 March, 2014

WILLIAMS: Changing the conversation on parenting
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The amount of influence the family life has on a child is eye-opening. Did you know that marriage reduces the probability of child poverty by 80 percent? Did you further know that a child coming from an “intact married home” is 44 percent more likely to gain a college degree and 40 percent less likely to have a child out of wedlock, and will earn $ 4,000 more per year than a child that did not come from such a home?


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The power of family life, in many cases, can determine the outcome of a child’s life.

One of the major factors in determining an “intact married home” is the amount of involvement parents have in their child’s life. The same holds true for single-parent households. Children who have parents heavily involved in their lives are much more likely to be educationally successful, economically successful and morally upright than children who do not.

It’s time to completely change the conversation on good parenting. Children are the pr…………… continues on Washington Times

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Tribune’s parenting magazine has familiar pedigree

Posted by on Monday, 17 March, 2014

Tribune’s parenting magazine has familiar pedigree
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When a crying 8-month-old baby sparked national controversy by spoiling a recent Saturday night dinner for patrons of Chicago’s famed Alinea restaurant, parents of young children were in a quandary.

Many wondered aloud whether they could ever bring their offspring to a fine-dining establishment — or even to a moderately decent eatery.

Here to the rescue comes the new issue of Just Kidding magazine with a cover story on “No-drama dining: 42 ways to enjoy a family meal out,” serving up everything from “toddler-friendly restaurants” to ethic hot spots and upscale joints that set aside certain days for young…………… continues on Robert Feder

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Does medical marijuana equal bad parenting? – CNN
News from Does medical marijuana equal bad parenting? – CNN:

  • Use of medical marijuana may cause parents to run afoul of child welfare groups
  • Cases are handled the same way regardless of the drug, a spokesman says
  • Marijuana use does not make someone a bad parent, according to an advocate
  • Most medical marijuana laws do not address the issue

Don’t miss a special “WEED 2: Cannabis Madness” edition of “Sanjay Gupta MD” at 4:30 p.m. ET Saturday and 7:30 a.m. ET Sunday to learn more about medical marijuana.

Napa, California (CNN) — Shawnee’s voice is shrill, quavering — on the edge of desperate. She clutches her 11-month-old son while trying to comprehend the situation unfolding in front of her.

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9 Parenting Steps That Foster Growth, Confidence And Leadership In Kids

Posted by on Sunday, 16 March, 2014

9 Parenting Steps That Foster Growth, Confidence And Leadership In Kids
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Does medical marijuana equal bad parenting?
News from WND.com:

(CNN) Shawnee’s voice is shrill, quavering — on the edge of desperate. She clutches her 11-month-old son while trying to comprehend the situation unfolding in front of her.

Her boyfriend — her child’s father, Aaron — is in handcuffs.

“Why are you doing this?” she pleads with police officers standing on the lawn outside her home.

“Your baby doesn’t need to be subjected to marijuana,” an officer replies, in an audio recording made by Shawnee on her cell phone.

But she could explain: The couple have legal prescriptions for the marijuana in their home. His is prescribed for anxiety and chronic pain; hers for depression and anxiety.

“I told them we had our cards, our prescriptions,” said Shawnee, 27. “They didn’t want to see them.”

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Parenting in Southwest Florida: Be healthier in just five seconds

Posted by on Monday, 3 March, 2014

Parenting in Southwest Florida: Be healthier in just five seconds
News from The News-Press:

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SW FL PARENT & CHILD

Southwest Florida Parent & Child magazine is available free at hundreds of locations, in iTunes for the iPad and electronically on swflparentchild.com. You can also connect with SW FL Parent & Child on Facebook (swflparent…………… continues on The News-Press

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Eagles in spotlight know the difficulties of good parenting
News from Pittsburgh Post Gazette:

If only the video camera monitoring the bald eagle nest in Hays included audio and interpretation of what the eagle parents were saying to one another. We might overhear something like this …

Mom: Hon, I’ve got some new news about the eggs.

Dad: What’s that?

Mom: We’ve got three of them now.

Dad: What?

Mom: You’re not happy — I knew it. I wasn’t even going to tell you, but I thought you’d eventually count them yourself and figure it out anyway.

Dad: That’s giving me more credit than you usually do. And it’s not that I’m not happy — it’s wonderful news. I’m just worried how we’re going to feed them all.

Mom: What, there’s a fish shortage in Pittsburgh all of a sudden?

Dad: It’s easy for you to make light of. You’re not the one that needs to swoop over the river all day long searching for prey. When the wind chill’s below zero, it’s not as much fun as it looks.

Mom: Speaking of which, where were you the other night when that raccoon came around trying to steal the kids?

Dad: Oh, yeah, the raccoon — I did see the camera replay of you chasing that devil away. Good job.

Mom: But shouldn’t that be your job? Where were you?

Dad: Uh … sleeping?

Mom: That’s what I thought.

Dad: What, an eagle can’t ever sleep? After spending all day chasing down a rabbit to bring you for din…………… continues on Pittsburgh Post Gazette

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