Archive for April, 2013

Cambridge author draws parenting lessons from around world

Posted by on Tuesday, 30 April, 2013

Cambridge author draws parenting lessons from around world
News from Boston Herald:

The mommy wars are far from over — but a local author is calling for a truce in the battle over the best way to raise children.

Cambridge writer Christine Gross-Loh offers “Parenting Without Borders: Surprising Lessons Parents Around the World Can Teach Us” (Avery, $ 26), a global study that aims to illuminate the best (and worst) parenting habits here, in Europe and in Asia.

“I’d like to bring the discussion back to a really reasonable place,” said Gross-Loh, a mother of four. “I’m not trying to make parents feel bad at all — just showing the other way.”

First of all, American parents get high marks from Gross-Loh for their warmth and tolerance.

“I’m struck how passionate we are about social justice, we are raising a tolerant generation,” she said. “I like how warm American parents are with their children. I don’t think other parents in other countries are warm.”

But the crossover from affectionate mom to over-praising “marshmallow” is dangerous, she wrote.

“What a lot of parents don’t see is what happens when we boost our kids too much. If we let ‘making kids feel good’ be our guiding principle, we are buying short-term goodwill at the expense of their future resilience.”

Gross-Loh, who lived in Japan for several years with her young family and still spends several weeks a year in that country, praised parents there fo…………… continues on Boston Herald

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Biracial Parenting: My Daughter Thinks She’s White
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BabyCenter :

My daughter, Princess, and I were having a conversation about her grandma one day. When I asked which grandma she was referring to she responded, “The white one.” This was the first time I’ve ever heard her mention a person’s race.

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We each have our own parenting style

Posted by on Monday, 29 April, 2013

We each have our own parenting style
News from Boston Herald:

Dear OMG,

I’m a new(-ish) mom with my first child. We can’t afford to shop at Whole Foods every week, and I don’t have time to make all meals from scratch, but many of my mom-friends have made it clear they judge me for not using all organics and letting my son have candy sometimes. How can I get them to lay off?

— Cambridge momma

Dear Cambridge momma,

You’re doing the best you can, and even Gwynnie Paltrow lets her kids have a Coke once a week. Remind your co-mommies that parenting is different for everyone, and you believe in everything in moderation. Then raise your glass of wine and never look back.

Dear OMG,

My girlfriend is a sophomore at a college in Tennessee, and I’m in my second year here in Boston. Lately she’s been talking about transferring to a Boston school to be closer to me. I love her a lot, but I think her school in Tennessee is a better fit for her and I don’t think two more years of distance is “so” bad. I feel like if I tell her that she’ll end things. What should I do?

LDR

Dear LDR,

Long-distance relationships are always hard. If you’re not sure having her here in Boston would be the best thing, then you might just like the “idea” of a girlfriend more than actually being in a relationship. It’s…………… continues on Boston Herald

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Tamar Braxton Discusses Parenting Style and Fashion
News from Eurweb.com:

*Childbirth is fast approaching for reality star and singer Tamar Braxton.

The soon-to-be mother spoke with theYBF and said that she’s thinking about what kind of mother she’ll be, taking into consideration her own mother’s style.

“I think if I follow her blueprint, I’ll be alright,” said Braxton. “My parents did a great job raising us. We’ve grown up to respect our parents and respect others. We get into little tiffs but we always make up. Those are the values I’d like to instill in my child.”

As far as her fashion sense, she’s going for the modern look with Alexander McQueen.

“I call it ‘maternity’ McQueen… because a lot of his things are stretchy,” said Braxton. “A lot of BCBG. I refuse to wear anything uncomfortable.”

Besides that, she admitted to Essence.com a few weeks ago that she and her hubby, Vincent Herbert, aren’t exactly ready for their baby (but what new parent is).

“We’re a lot behind,” said Tamar. Vincent added, “We’re waiting for Toni Braxton and some of her other sisters to figure out all that type of stuff because they really want to be a part of the baby thing.”

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Best Parenting Tweets: What Moms And Dads Said On Twitter This Week

Posted by on Sunday, 28 April, 2013

Best Parenting Tweets: What Moms And Dads Said On Twitter This Week
News from Huffington Post:

Sometimes being around kids is great for your self-esteem, and sometimes… not so much. On Twitter, moms and dads reminded us of what it’s like to be on either end of the spectrum as well as all of the other grand emotions parenting involves. Enjoy the roundup below of our favorite funny tweets from parents this week, and don’t forget to follow @HuffPostParents!

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Parenting in a Nutshell: Take time to count your blessings
News from Tribune-Review:

By Tribune-Review

Published: Saturday, April 27, 2013, 9:00 p.m.
Updated 15 hours ago

It’s been a rough few months for our country. Natural disasters ??” and horribly unnatural tragedies ??” have overwhelmed us and bring to mind that we need to take time to count our blessings. As parents, we sometimes get wrapped up in the business of everyday life, temporarily overlooking the blessings in our homes ??” our families and their safety.

Here are ideas to celebrate your family:

??? Stress the positive; destress the negative. Sometimes, we see our family’s faults more clearly than their strengths. Strike a balance by honoring your children’s strengths. Every time you criticize a family member (even if it’s just in your mind), balance it with a compliment. Remind yourself what you love about each of them and then verbalize it. Those are the kinds of memories you want your children to grow up with.

??? Spend one-on-one time getting to know each family member. Go on a ???date??? with each child individually. (You may also want to create a special date time with your partner on a regular basis). Each parent should try to spend tim…………… continues on Tribune-Review

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MORE kids hooked on iPads: Is it technology addiction, or poor parenting?

Posted by on Saturday, 27 April, 2013

MORE kids hooked on iPads: Is it technology addiction, or poor parenting?
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Dolly’s mom Shona Shibary (top), mom of three-year-old Dolly, says, “With the demands of family life it’s easier to plonk her in front of a screen, which I do regularly, than try to entertain her.”

Days after a four-year-old girl was identified as Britain’s youngest iPad “addict,” parents of even younger children stepped forward to speak about their kids’ compulsive tablet use — and why they permit it.

Dolly Sibary, age 3, is “completely obsessed” with the iPad and spends about four hours a day with it, her mother said.

RELATED: IPAD ‘ADDICT’ IS JUST 4 YEARS OLD

“This is largely my fault. She is much younger than her siblings [aged 14, 12 and 10] and by the time she was born I was finished with the whole Play-Doh thing,” Shona Sibary, 42, of Surrey, U…………… continues on New York Daily News

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Poor Parenting Linked to Increase in Risk of Bullying
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Home » News » Suicide News » Poor Parenting Linked to Increase in Risk of Bullying
By Janice Wood Associate News Editor
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on April 27, 2013

Children who are exposed to poor parenting, whether it’s abuse, neglect or overprotection, are more likely to experience childhood bullying, according to new research.

A meta-analysis of 70 studies of more than 200,000 children by researchers at the University of Warwick found the effects of poor parenting were stronger for…………… continues on PsychCentral.com

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Poor Parenting Styles Linked to Bullying

Posted by on Friday, 26 April, 2013

Poor Parenting Styles Linked to Bullying
News from WebMD:

Being overprotective may be just as bad as being neglectful for spurring bully and victim roles

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By Robert Preidt

HealthDay Reporter

FRIDAY, April 26 (HealthDay News) — Parents may think they can keep their kids safe by hovering over them, but a new study finds that children of overprotective parents are more likely to be bullied.

And on the other end of the spectrum, having abusive or neglectful parents also seems to make kids a target for bullies, according to an analysis of 70 studies that included more than 200,000 children.

The effects of these types of poor parenting were stronger among children who were bullied and also bullied others (bully-victims) than among those who were bullied but did not bully others.

The review also found that negative or harsh parenting was associated with a moderate increase in the risk of children being bully-victims and a small increase in their risk of being a victim of bullying. Warm but firm parenting reduced children’s risk of being bullied, the investigators noted.

The findings of the review, led by researchers at the University of Warwick in England, are published in the April 25 issue of the journal Child Abuse & Neglect.

“Although parental involvement, support and high supervision de…………… continues on WebMD

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Courageous Mom Rescues Abducted Son in Egypt
News from Yahoo! Canada Shine:

Kalli Atteya (left), Niko Atteya (right) (photos: courtesy Kalli Atteya)

Khalil Mohamed “Niko” Atteya,12, must have been terrified when a woman in a burka grabbed his arm as he stepped off a school bus in Alexandria, Egypt and hauled him toward a motorized cart—until he saw her bright blue eyes through the slit in the dark fabric. “My first reaction was…[wondering] if that was my mom or not, and then I saw her eyes,” Niko told Fox News. “I thought, ‘Thank God. I’m going to finally get out of here. I’m going to be free.'”

More on Yahoo: Meet 9 Recovering Boston Marathon Victims

It’s a parent’s worst nightmare. In August 2011, Kalli…………… continues on Yahoo! Canada Shine

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5 ways to embrace minimalist parenting

Posted by on Thursday, 25 April, 2013

5 ways to embrace minimalist parenting
News from The Week Magazine:

Inject breathing room into your family life — without becoming a “slacker parent”

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n our speed-of-light, sound-bite world, either/or parenting messages seem to travel well. You’re either eating organic or you’re not. You’re either cloth diapering or you’re contributing to the landfill. You’re either a hovering helicopter parent o…………… continues on The Week Magazine

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Poor parenting—including overprotection—increases bullying risk
News from Medical Xpress:

Children who are exposed to negative parenting – including abuse, neglect but also overprotection – are more likely to experience childhood bullying by their peers, according to a meta-analysis of 70 studies of more than 200,000 children.

The research, led by the University of Warwick and published in the journal Child Abuse & Neglect, found the effects of poor parenting were stronger for children who are both a victim and perpetrator of bulling (bully-victims) than children who were solely victims.

It found that negative or harsh parenting was linked to a moderate increase in the risk of being a ‘bully-victim’ and a small increase in the risk of being a victim of bullying. In contrast, warm but firm parenting reduced the risk of being bullied by peers.

The study authors, Professor Dieter Wolke, Dr Suzet Lereya and Dr Muthanna Samara, called for anti-bullying intervention programmes to extend their focus beyond schools to focus on positive parenting within families and to start befo…………… continues on Medical Xpress

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Parenting Tip: Limit screen time using Kaboom App Timer

Posted by on Wednesday, 24 April, 2013

Parenting Tip: Limit screen time using Kaboom App Timer
News from tuaw.com:

Limiting screen time is a challenge for any parent. It’s easy to hand an iPad to your kids and even easier to get distracted and forget to take it away. One way to move that responsibility away from your forgetful self and onto the device is using the Kaboom App Timer.

As its name implies, Kaboom is a timer that runs in the background while your child plays with your iPad, iPhone or iPod touch. Kaboom has two timers — one called Play and one called Rest. Play is the amount of time you want your child to use the device, and rest is the amount of time the device is not accessible to play. Each timer is based in minutes / hours and can be set for as little as five minutes or as long as 24 hours. Unfortunately, there is no clock option so you can’t set the device for play time from say 8:00 – 10:00 AM and rest for the remainder of the day.

Before you can use Kaboom, you have to set up the alerts in settings > notifications and change the alert type from banners to screen alerts. Once that is done, you can open Kaboom, set the play and rest timers and let your child enjoy some time with your iOS device. When their play time is up, a screen and sound alert will let your child know i…………… continues on tuaw.com

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19 hilarious signs you’re definitely a parent
News from msnNOW:

From the moment your precious little bundle comes home from the hospital, your life is forever changed — and we mean more than just the fact that it has greater meaning now. We also mean extra ingredients in your coffee, a multicolored Netflix queue and poop in the bathtub on a semi-regular basis. This week, the “orphan socks” photo image included above was making the rounds, and that alerted us to other social posts that prove there are certain nuances to life as a parent that only other parents can understand. Your childless friends can’t appreciate the brilliance of unplugged video game controllers or why car keys must be stashed 4 feet off the ground? You know the secret handshake now. Wear it like a badge — and share it with the other fantastic parents you know.

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Will Smith Talks Parenting: “We Don’t Do Punishment”

Posted by on Wednesday, 24 April, 2013

Will Smith Talks Parenting: “We Don’t Do Punishment”
News from E! Online:

by Bruna Nessif Tue., Apr. 23, 2013 2:06 PM PDT

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Having Will Smith as a dad already seems like the coolest thing ever, and now we learn something else that makes that argument even stronger.

The Men in Black star and his 14-year-old son Jaden Smith sat down for an interview with Metro, where the duo discussed working together, their upcoming projects (including their latest film together After Earth) and everyday life in the Smith household.

Which, according to Will, doesn’t involve much disciplinary action.

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School Dress Code Bans Strapless Dresses for Girls at Dance
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Strapless dresses are not allowed at this year’s 8th grade dinner dance. Photo: Stephen Vance Photography/Getty …A newly instituted ban on strapless dresses at an upcoming eighth-grade dance in Readington, New Jersey—with a promise to turn away girls who don’t obey—has some parents crying foul.

More on Shine: Prom Dress Rules: High Schools Ban Sexy Gowns

“I’m objecting to the fact that government can come in and change the rules without asking parents. That’s an abuse of authority,” parent Charlotte Nijenhuis told the Courier News Monday about the ban, instituted by principal Sharon Moffat at Readington Middle School and backed by superintendent Barbara Sargent.

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Finding Parenting Balance

Posted by on Tuesday, 23 April, 2013

Finding Parenting Balance
News from KELOLAND TV:

SIOUX FALLS, SD –

Most parents want to do everything they can for their children. But in order for children to learn important life lessons, they have to do some things by themselves.

Melissa Johnson has a sweet relationship with her children even though Johnson’s kids have had to work hard for what they have.

“I also want them to be able to make their own way in the world and be self-sufficient,” Melissa said.

Melissa’s two older children work with her at her store, Oh My Cupcakes, in Sioux Falls.

“I think when kids have things just handed to them, it’s a disservice that’s being done to them and they’re not going to learn those life lessons as they grow,” Melissa said.

Eighteen-year-old Randi has another job in addition to working at Oh My Cupcakes. She pays for her own cell phone bill and bought her own car.

“Then that got totaled and I paid for all the repairs. I’ve paid for all the tickets I’ve gotten,” Randi said.

While you might not agree with all of Johnson’s parenting decisions, Certified Family Life Educator Doniese Wilcox says it’s important for kids to learn to become independent.

“The child who learns that mom is always going to be here to bail me out, and that’s what that sometimes does, so they don’t see the consequences of not managing their own life,” Wilcox said.

Wilcox says even small tasks…………… continues on KELOLAND TV

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Lawmakers Support Inmate Parenting Program
News from 1011now:

Nebraska lawmakers advanced a bill that would support a program that teaches inmates how to be good parents.

Senators voted 38-1 on Monday to advance the measure sponsored by Sen. Kate Bolz of Lincoln.

The bill would let the state take over an existing inmate parenting program that was created by a nonprofit in 2009. Parents in the program are taught relationship and parenting skills.

Bolz says the program helps reduce the likelihood convicted parent will return to jail. About 7 percent of the program’s participants who have been released from jail have returned. The Nebraska Department of Correctional Services estimates the recidivism rate for such a group is more than 25 percent.

The program would cost the state $ 250,000 a year to fund.

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Step-parenting from the child’s perspective

Posted by on Monday, 22 April, 2013

Step-parenting from the child’s perspective
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11:20 AM, April 22, 2013

Photo: #ABC’s “Modern Family” features Rico Rodriguez as Manny, his mother Gloria, played by Sofia Vergara, and his step-father Jay, played by Ed O’Neill.

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Supreme Court cases put spotlight on gay parenting
News from Record-Searchlight:

NEW YORK (AP) — The White House told the Supreme Court it favored same-sex marriage. So did dozens of big corporations, a host of political and legal heavyweights — and 9-year-old Austin Covey.

“My dads take the best care of me and my brother,” Austin said in one of the many legal briefs submitted to court. “My family is no different than any other family.”

In fact, his California family is different from most. Austin’s fathers, Joseph and Kevin Covey, are legally married. Yet because it’s a same-sex union, the federal government doesn’t recognize it under provisions of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act, now under review by the Supreme Court.

But is such a marriage also different in ways that disadvantage children?

Justice Antonin Scalia suggested as much in oral arguments last month, when the Supreme Court considered DOMA and California’s same-sex marriage statute.

“If you redefine marriage to include same-sex couples,” Scalia said, “you must permit adoption by same-sex couples. There’s considerable disagreement among sociologists as to what the consequences of raising a child in a single-sex family, whether that is harmful to the child or not.”

Actually, though there are some dissenters who say that research is not definitive — and some states block gay couples form jointly adopting children — there’s a broad…………… continues on Record-Searchlight

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