Archive for November, 2012

Did Attachment Parenting Contribute to Mayim Bialik’s Divorce?

Posted by on Thursday, 29 November, 2012

Did Attachment Parenting Contribute to Mayim Bialik’s Divorce?
News from TIME:

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Far be it from us at Family Matters to issue judgment on a person’s undoubtedly excruciating decision to divorce. For days, we’ve refrained from weighing in on actress Mayim Bialik’s announcement that she and her husband are calling it quits, cleaving her famously assembled attachment-parenting unit in two.

But two things made us realize that Bialik’s divorce announcement is ripe for the parsing: she is already in the public eye as a celebrity, where famous people’s choices are picked apart every day. And she has also been an outspoken and ardent advocate of attachment parenting, extolling the child-first virtues of this intense style of up-close-and-personal, wear-your-baby, breastfeed-until-middle-school approach to raising kids in a blog and a book she released earlier this year.

In other words, it seems fair game to wonder whether her parenting practices had anything to do with the demise of her

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Parenting for the Perplexed: Eight days of gifts — is it too many?
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Rachel Biale, MSW, is a Berkeley-based parenting consultant who has been working with parents of very young children for more than 25 years. Send questions through her Facebook page: Parenting Counseling by Rachel Biale or via .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address).

Chanukah is nearing, and we are blessed with a large extended family. We are a bit worried about HPO — Hanukkah Presents Overdose. Last year, our son was almost 2 and seemed overwhelmed. I’m afraid he disappointed many relatives by being more interested in the boxes than in the presents. Advice? — H.G., San Francisco

Dear H.G.: Glad you have the presence of mind to realize you should make a “gifts response plan” to handle the anticipated avalanche. This year, Chanukah comes well before Christmas. That offers a nice opportunity to differentiate between the two holidays and, should the pile of presents be really excessive, to donate some of them (at least, any duplicates) to Christmas toy drives sponsored by local fire departments.

When my daughter was around the age your child is now, a family in her preschool invited us to a Christmas Day lunch. It was a year like this one, when Chanukah and Christmas were more than two weeks apart, so we thought there would b…………… continues on Jweekly.com

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Mom gets two life terms for killing her children

Posted by on Wednesday, 28 November, 2012

Mom gets two life terms for killing her children
News from Examiner.com:

Kelli Lynn Murphy, a Castle Rock, Colorado Mom was found guilty of first-degree murder of her two children, Liam, age 9 and Madigan, age 6.

After the verdict was announced, Judge Vincent White sentenced Kelli Lynn Murphy to two consecutive life sentences in state prison.

Murphy killed her children by smothering them with a pillow in their Castle Rock home on May 23, 2011. Kelli Lynn Murphy wanted to retain sole custody of her children and she and her husband were in the middle of a bitter divorce and custody battle.

Police went to Kelli Lynn Murphy’s home after she told a 911 dispatcher that she was going to commit suicide and that her children were in heaven, this was approximately 12 hours after her children were already dead.

Detectives who were investigating the case found court-ordered custody papers laying on the kitchen table with the handwritten words, “Was it worth it?” directed at her husband for his part in fighting for custody of the children.

According the Denver Post, the family issued the following statement after the trial: “Although nothing can make up for the loss of Liam and Madigan or fill the void that is left by their absence, we are thankful tha…………… continues on Examiner.com

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Do differences in parenting styles matter?
News from Washington Post:

Our country prides itself on expanding opportunity. These days any legal resident fluent in English and willing to work can get a college degree. More low-income and minority students are being welcomed into the most challenging high school courses. The number of minorities in positions of power has grown.

But are we raising our children in ways that best prepare them for more life choices? It is a ticklish question, difficult to discuss because it is so personal and so loaded with unexamined stereotypes. Education writers like me often leave it alone and become unsettled when the issue is directly confronted, as it is in education scholar Michael Petrilli’s new book, “The Diverse Schools Dilemma.”

Jay Mathews

writes a weekly column about education and the Class Struggle blog.

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Mayim Bialik Parenting Style Didn’t Cause Divorce

Posted by on Wednesday, 28 November, 2012

Mayim Bialik Parenting Style Didn’t Cause Divorce
News from Huffington Post:

Since “Big Bang Theory” actress Mayim Bialik announced last week that she and husband Michael Stone were divorcing after nine years of marriage, people have begun to speculate about what caused the split.

Many are wondering if Bialik’s advocacy of attachment parenting — a philosophy that promotes prolonged breastfeeding, continues on Huffington Post

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Making a case for old-fashioned parenting
News from Chicago Tribune:

From the title alone, you can probably guess that John Rosemond’s new book, “Parent-Babble: How Parents Can Recover from Fifty Years of Bad Expert Advice” (Andrews McMeel Publishing), isn’t going to bring deafening cheers from the psychological community.

He doesn’t care; he’s more interested in getting a message out.

“I’ve been somewhat of an iconoclast for some time now,” said Rosemond, who has been a licensed family psychologist for 40 years but these days devotes his time to writing, lecturing and generally stirring things up.

Rosemond believes that the changing society of the 1960s, when old methods were challenged and often rejected, led to a breakdown in parenting.

As a result, kids today, Rosemond says, are ill-behaved, impolite, beset with emotional problems and not as happy as kids were back in the 1950s. They’re a mess.

“I realized in the late ’70s, early ’80s that a, psychological teaching was inadequate to explain human behavior, and b, a lot of theories proposed at that time were unsupported by research,” he said recently from California, where he was speaking to several parents groups.

Rosemond’s solution is a return to the child-raising strategies of 50 years ago. That’s not what the authors of hundreds of contemporary “how to raise your kids” books might have in mind.

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Opinion: Epic. Parenting. Fail. Your small children ruined Skyfall for me

Posted by on Tuesday, 27 November, 2012

Opinion: Epic. Parenting. Fail. Your small children ruined Skyfall for me
News from Pegasus News:

Get a damn babysitter.

New Line Cinema

And, then Papa Bear filled Goldilocks full of lead. ‘Night, sweetie.

Hey. You. You boneheads that brought your four children under the age of 10 to the movie theater to see the latest Bond film, Skyfall, the Wednesday night before Thanksgiving. I hate to break it to you, but this is an open letter to you, because you are so doing parenting wrong. The decision to expose those kids to the sex, violence, and profanity in that movie? Epic. Parenting. Fail. And yo…………… continues on Pegasus News

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“Big Bang Theory” Actress Mayim Bialik Announces Divorce
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Mayim Bialik and Michael Stone, her husband of nine years, are calling it quits.

The 36-year-old actress revealed the news on her parenting blog. “After much consideration and soul-searching, Michael and I have arrived at the decision to divorce due to ‘Irreconcilable Differences,” the mother-of-two wrote. “Divorce is terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible for children. It is not something we have decided lightly.”

Earlier this year, Bialik published a book about attachment parenting, called “Beyond the Sling,” but says it had nothing to do with their move. The couple have two boys together.

“The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision; relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose,” the former “Blossom” star explained.

“The main priority for us now is to make the transition to two loving homes as smooth and painless as possible. Our sons deserve parents committed to their growth and health and that’s what we are focusing on,” the Emmy-nominated actress continued. “Our privacy has always been important and is even more so now, and we thank you in advance for respecting it as we negotiate this new terrain.”

She ended the statement with: “We will be ok.”

Earlier this year, Bialik, who has a docto…………… continues on Opposing Views

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Orlando Sentinel Family Fund: Boys Town parenting class helps father, family …

Posted by on Sunday, 25 November, 2012

Orlando Sentinel Family Fund: Boys Town parenting class helps father, family …
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Arun Raval, who owns Winter Park’s Daily Express deli,… (Ricardo Ramirez Buxeda,…)

7:11 p.m. EST, November 24, 2012|

By Stephen Hudak, Orlando Sentinel

Arun Raval was fed up with lies.

“It was building up in me a long time,” said Raval, a father of three, explaining why he finally lost his temper during a quarrel with his teenage daughter about pictures he found on her cellphone. “I would never hurt my child or anyone.”

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Parenting: Dancing makes you smarter
News from OCRegister:

Jenny has always been a dancer. She has been doing high kicks since she could walk and can shake it with the girls twice her age. At any given time, you’ll find her doing an arabesque on top of the play house at the mall, doing the splits on top of the steps at Bagel Shack, or busting a move at church.

Inappropriate? Perhaps. But I recently learned that dance has so much more to offer than the obvious physical benefits, I roll with it.

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Dance can make you smarter — a lot smarter.

Better test scores. FamilyTalk Magazine states that students who have a background in dance tend to achieve significantly higher SAT scores and do better in math and science competitions. 

Better problem solving. Any physical exercise, including dance, can increase your problem solving skills. At the University of Illinois, Dr. Charles Hillman’s research shows that after a 30-minute stint on the treadmill, students actually do up to 10 percent better at problem solving.

Better cognitive abilities. In a recent study in the New England Journal of Medicine, scientists found in a 21-year longitudinal study that there were only a few activities that could protect people from dementia. They were readin…………… continues on OCRegister

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When Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka first brought home their newborn twins, Neil says, David took on a more maternal role, while he struggled to bond with his children. Watch as Neil opens up about his early struggles and shares his strengths as a dad. Plus, does this modern family want more children? Find out now! For more on Oprah’s Next Chapter visit www.oprah.com Find OWN on TV at www.oprah.com

Mayim Bialik Announces Divorce From Husband Michael Stone

Posted by on Friday, 23 November, 2012

Mayim Bialik Announces Divorce From Husband Michael Stone
News from Us Magazine:

All that attachment parenting may be beneficial for Mayim Bialik’s two kids, but it doesn’t seem to have helped her marriage. On Wednesday, it was announced that “The Big Bang Theory” actress split from her husband of nine years, Michael Stone, citing “irreconcilable differences.” On the Jewish parenting website Kveller.com, the 36-year-old was adamant that her style of parenting — her sons Miles, 7, and Fred, 4, sleep in the same bed as she and Stone — played no part in the split. “Relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose,” wrote Bialik.

In August, the former “Blossom” star told omg! that because of their parenting practices there was “an extra challenge” to find alone time with her husband, whom she met in college, and that the two had not “been on a proper evening date in seven years.” When talking about the many misconceptions of attachment parenting, she ackno…………… continues on Us Magazine

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Study: Pregnant teens need better school support
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When 15-year-old Kali Gonzalez became pregnant, the honors student considered transferring to an alternative school. She worried teachers would harass her for missing class because of doctor’s appointments and morning sickness.

A guidance counselor urged Gonzalez not to, saying that could lower her standards.

Instead, her counselor set up a meeting with teachers at her St. Augustine high school to confirm she could make up missed assignments, eat in class and use the restroom whenever she needed. Gonzalez, who is now 18, kept an A-average while pregnant. She capitalized on an online school program for parenting students so she could stay home and take care of her baby during her junior year. She returned to school her senior year and graduated with honors in May.

But Gonzalez is a rare example of success among pregnant students. Schools across the country are divided over how to handle them, with some schools kicking them out or penalizing students for pregnancy-related absences. And many schools say they can’t afford costly support programs, including tutoring, child care and transportation for teens who may live just a few miles from school but still too far to walk while pregnant or with a small child.

Nearly 400,000 girls and young women between 15 and 19 years old gave birth in 2010, a rate of 34 per 1,000, according to the Centers for…………… continues on Fox News

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Sarah Coyne: Proofreading produces parenting epiphany

Posted by on Thursday, 22 November, 2012

Sarah Coyne: Proofreading produces parenting epiphany
News from Joplin Globe:

JOPLIN, Mo. — One super-duper, awesome benefit of being married to a graduate student was getting to be first in line to proofread scores of graduate papers during his studies. There’s nothing as exciting as a Tuesday night spent slogging through a 20-page report on international business models, especially when your usual reading fare is more related to Beezus and Ramona.

It was during a proofreading session on motivation and employee management that I had a parenting epiphany.

My husband’s research paper outlined the differences between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. Extrinsic motivation included things such as monetary bonuses, praise and promotions — things that rely upon external forces. Intrinsic motivation was based within the employee: pride in work, satisfaction from overcoming a challenge and fulfillment of personal goals.

His paper reached the conclusion that employers would have a happier work force if they could enable their employees to tap into those intrinsic forces. Everyone knows that a happy work force is a productive work force, and I began thinking about how much this matched up with what I knew about kids.

When kids are happy, they’re easy to manage. They’re fun, interesting and willing to try new things. When they’re bossed, bribed or forced into submission, they grow bitter and resentful.

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‘Blossom’ actress, ‘attachment parenting’ advocate Mayim Bialik to divorce …

Posted by on Wednesday, 21 November, 2012

‘Blossom’ actress, ‘attachment parenting’ advocate Mayim Bialik to divorce …
News from Washington Post:

LOS ANGELES — Mayim Bialik is splitting from her husband of nine years.

The 36-year-old actress says in a statement posted online Wednesday that she and husband Michael Stone have decided to divorce. The couple has two young sons.

Bialik recently released a book about attachment parenting, but says the philosophy that encourages forming close bonds with near-constant physical contact played no role in the couple’s split.

The Emmy-nominated star of CBS’ ”The Big Bang Theory” says “relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose.”

She says divorce is “terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible” for children and adds that the couple’s sons remain their priority.

Bialik first gained fame as the star of the 1990s sitcom “Blossom.” She holds a doctoral degree in neuroscience from UCLA, specializing in obsessive-compulsive disorder in adolescents.

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Parenting Magazine Names CedarWorks Rhapsody a 2012 Toy of the Year

Posted by on Wednesday, 21 November, 2012

Parenting Magazine Names CedarWorks Rhapsody a 2012 Toy of the Year
News from Sacramento Bee:

/PRNewswire-iReach/ — Parenting Magazine published their 2012 Toys of the Year list in the December/January issue.  CedarWorks’ Rhapsody Modern Playhouse was featured among the exclusive group of distinguished products.  In the article, Parenting editors highlighted the spacious play space and breezeway entry, also noting the cutout stars and shapes that cast shadows on the bright red chalkboard interior.  

(Photo: http://photos.prnewswire.com/prnh/20121119/CG16380 )

“CedarWorks is honored to be selected by Parenting Magazine for this national recognition.” said Barrett Brown, CedarWorks company president. “We are extremely proud of the design and quality of our Modern Playhouse as well as our entire line of innovative Rhapsody indoor play products.  We certainly agree that Rhapsody products from CedarWorks make wonderful holiday gifts.” commented Brown.

The Rhapsody product line features ultra premium playsets, play beds and playhouses.  The products are exquisitely designed and crafted from premium natural materials, and the innovative modular system allows complete customization for any child’s bedroom or pla…………… continues on Sacramento Bee

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Oxbridge Academy hosts parenting series
News from Palm Beach Post:

OXBRIDGE ACADEMY

The school will kick off its parenting series with a panel discussion on creating a positive home learning environment. The free session, open to the public, begins at 6:30 p.m. Tuesday in the auditorium, 3151 N. Military Trail West Palm Beach. For more information, call Audrey Bland at 561-972-9654 or email abland@oapb.org.

Allison Taylor was selected to perform in the Florida Orchestra Association’s All-State Orchestra at the annual Florida Music Educators Association Convention in Tampa in January.

ATLANTIS ACADEMY

An interactive open house takes place 5 to 7 p.m. Wednesday at the school, 1950 Prairie Road, West Palm Beach.Parents can experience classroom lessons and obtain information from professionals about the IEP process and services available for students with disabilities/learning difficulties. For more information, go to www.palmbeaches.atlantisacademy.com.

LAKE WORTH MIDDLE

The school is the Southeast Region’s week one winner of Voyager Learning’s Math Mania competition. In recognition of its math mastery, the school will receive the official Math Mania banner, will top the Math Mania Leaderboard for one week, and will be featured in the November/December issue of Voyager Connection, Voyager Learning’s e-magazine available at www.vo…………… continues on Palm Beach Post

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Parenting Perfectionists: From Supermom To Nervous Breakdown (VIDEO)

Posted by on Tuesday, 20 November, 2012

Parenting Perfectionists: From Supermom To Nervous Breakdown (VIDEO)
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Tameka McFaul went from a severely depressed mother to CEO of her own company, Driven Dream Girls. On a segment for HuffPost Live, she shared with host Nancy Redd how trying to be a supermom stressed her out. McFaul, who married her high school sweetheart, put pressure on herself to do it all and eventually had a breakdown after losing her job.

“I just felt as a mom that I wasn’t doing my part,” she said. “I think that’s where the depression came in. So it was just like hitting the pavement and going to interview after interview. And I think life just started taking a toll on me. That’s when the depression took a hold of me.”

Redd and McFaul were joined by actress Pamela Bowen, Erin Cox, author of “One Hot Mama,” and Dr. Heather Harrison, author of “The Mommy Psychologist.”

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How Have Parenting Styles Changed Over the Last Generation?
News from OzarksFirst.com:

SPRINGFIELD, Mo. — What’s the toughest job in the world? Many people will say being a parent.

For the most part, it’s on-the-job training. No doubt moms and dads today face different pressures than their parents did a generation ago.

At one time, the “Leave it to Beaver” TV show was the picture of parenting in America. Today, it’s more like a chaotic scene from “Cheaper by the Dozen.”

So what has changed?

“I think parents are less strict,” says Ali Shay. “I know when I was little I got in trouble all the time, but now some of the kids are allowed to do anything.”

“I was home with my girls,” recalls Lorraine Colon. “Cooked dinner, made sure they did their homework. Now it’s different. Both parents are working.”

“Parents don’t seem to teach their children to respect their elders,” says Keith Marion.

Dr. Angel Gill-Taylor is a clinical psychologist with Mercy Clinic. She says, in part, an evolution in technology and science has reshaped how we parent our children today.

“They didn’t use science to apply to raising children. It was based more on biblical principals or philosophy of where they lived and that’s what they passed down one generation to the next.”

Clearly pop culture has changed.

“Children can have tv 24 hours a day, seven days a week and the internet.   That’s one of the issues parents are…………… continues on OzarksFirst.com

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