Archive for March, 2012

New Parenting Lows: Shaming Little Girls Into Losing Weight

Posted by on Saturday, 31 March, 2012

New Parenting Lows: Shaming Little Girls Into Losing Weight
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“Game of Thrones” parenting lessons
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“Game of Thrones” isn’t the most likely parenting guide: Season 1 is bookended with beheadings and chock-full of incest. But when you’re about to be a dad you can find inspiration in unlikely places, and last April I had already maxed out my library renewals on “Your Baby’s First Year for Dummies.”

I didn’t freak out when I found out my wife and I were going to have a son. But as the day approached, I had a crisis of confidence. We were living in a studio in Los Angeles, sleeping on a mattress that smelled like pumpkin beer from the previous fall, driving a two-door, 30-year-old car. How were we supposed to do this?

It turns out I was asking the right questions. We needed a new car and a new house; we got Ford’s least-monstrous SUV and a three-bedroom rental that cost as much as my old Brooklyn one-bedroom. And then, in the final weeks before our son arrived, we started watching “Game of Thrones.” By the time our boy was born, I didn’t want to swaddle him; I wanted to thrust him to the heavens on top of a parapet and declare, “All this will be yours!”

“Game of Thrones” cares about children. Children are heirs. There’s no hemming and hawing about how they’re desensitized to violence or they cost too much to send to college. They’re a blessing — in many ways the only blessing — and even the evil ones have parents who love them.

I trie…………… continues on Salon

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Alicia Silverstone, January Jones And Other Celebrity Moms Share Parenting …

Posted by on Friday, 30 March, 2012

Alicia Silverstone, January Jones And Other Celebrity Moms Share Parenting …
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“TMI!” That’s the reaction some onlookers are having to the recent slew of celebrity parenting news.

From Alicia Silverstone’s video manifesto for the controversial practice of pre-chewing — which became enough of a national story to merit analysis from Dr. Nancy Snyderman on NBC’s “Today Show” this week (“There’s nothing dirtier than the human mouth,” she said) — to the ongoing coverage of

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Advice for Parenting Teens
News from Patch.com:

The  number one crime at Mira Costa? Theft. The reason for theft? To buy drugs and alcohol. The cause of youth alcohol and drug use? Stress. 

That’s what those in the know shared with a room full of interested parents during the “State of Our Teens” panel presentation Wednesday night in the Manhattan Beach Library Community Room.

Those experts agree the best way to help teenagers avoid alcohol and drug use is for parents to keep communication open by listening, and making their child feel safe expressing their feelings and what is bothering them at the moment.

Led by Dr. Greg Allen, a private practice therapist and director of Freedom for Our Kids, an organization that provides space for kids to gather, play or perform music, the panel included MBPD Detective and School Resource Officer at Mira Costa, John Loy; Youth Services staffer for the Beach Cities Health District, Sandi Conley;  Erin Foster, a therapist in practice with Allen, and attorney for youth, George Bird, Jr.

Dr. Allen started off by talking about stress and its causes. He said it used to be that substance use by teens was caused by peer pressure to fit in but that in this high achieving area, it is the pressure to get good grades, to get into a good college, to excel in sports and to balance sometimes up to five to nine extra activities a week with no time to relax t…………… continues on Patch.com

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Poor parenting ‘fuels rise in violent behaviour’

Posted by on Thursday, 29 March, 2012

Poor parenting ‘fuels rise in violent behaviour’
News from BBC News:

Teachers say pupils can lack discipline

Poor parenting and family breakdown is fuelling a rise in violent bad behaviour in UK schools, a survey says.

A third of teachers polled for the Association of Teachers and Lecturers said they had dealt with violence like pushing, punching or kicking this year.

ATL head Mary Bousted said some pupils had a “total disregard” for school rules.

They were as likely to be “overindulged middle class” pupils as disadvantaged ones, she added.

The teaching union surveyed 814 teachers and support staff at UK schools on the issue, and heard tales of violence in the classroom.

More than half said they felt behaviour had worsened in the past five years.

One teaching assistant at a state primary in England said: “A pupil once hit me in the back totally unexpectedly, because I asked her to put a book away. I was so winded and hurt that I couldn’t carry on that day.”

Another, at a school in Wales, said: “I…………… continues on BBC News

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UK Commission on 2011 Riots Points to Poor Parenting Instead of Police Violence
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British riot police arrive after a number of cars are set alight in Hackney, north London on August 8, 2011.   (Photo by Leon Neal/AFP/Getty Images)

The Riots, Communities and Victims Panel released its final report yesterday, concluding, “after the riots, we must give everyone a stake in society.”

The panel, appointed by British Prime Minister David Cameron to examine the August 2011 riots that Scotland Yard described as the worst urban violence in the UK in living memory, focused on the country’s “500,000 forgotten families,” arguing that a lack of institutional support for young people, as well as poor parenting, were among the factors that led to rioting in Birmingham, London Manchester and other English cities. Darra Singh, Chair of the Riots Communities and Victims Panel, said in a press statement:

There are people ‘bumping along the bottom’, unable to change their lives. When people don’t feel they have a reason to stay out of trouble, the consequences for communities can be devastating – as we saw last August.

The report estimates that up to 15,000 people, most of them under the age of 24, participated in the riots.

On broad youth participat…………… continues on In These Times

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Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

Today’s busier, faster society is waging an undeclared war on childhood. With too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time, children can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be diagnosed with behavioral problems. Now internationally renowned family consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the space and freedom that all kids need for their attention to deepen and their individuality to flourish. Simplicity Parenting offers inspirati

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‘Parenting Without Power Struggles’ Sweepstakes: $150 SpaFinder Gift …

Posted by on Wednesday, 28 March, 2012

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There’s a great Far Side cartoon showing a fellow scolding his dog for getting into the trash. “Okay, Ginger! I’ve had it! You stay out of the garbage. Understand, Ginger? Stay out of the garbage or else!” The lower half shows the dog hearing, “Blah blah blah Ginger blah blah blah blah blah Ginger….”

This cartoon pretty much sums up the impact we have on our children when we launch into one of those long-winded lectures we’re so fond of delivering when they misbehave.

In my experience, after about seven words, kids tune out. Parents wish they wouldn’t. We want to believe they’re hanging on our every word, thoughtfully considering the error of their ways after they’ve sassed back. We somehow believe that when it comes to words, the more the merrier. So we ramble on, attempting to convince them to behave differently by going on and on … and on … and on.

But the truth is, the more you say, the weaker you come across and the less likely it is that children will take you seriously.

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Energy-Efficient… Parenting?!?
News from ECNmag.com:

When you hear the words “energy” and “parenting” in the same sentence, the first thing you may think of is parents’ own energy—or lack thereof—after many sleepless nights with a baby. But energy also comes into play when you’re thinking about the many…MANY…baby products you could potentially use. (Seriously, have you been to the baby section of any store lately? Overwhelming.)

While some would argue that you really only need a few items for your baby, inevitably the nice to have stuff also seems to pile up. My husband and I welcomed our first baby eight months ago and we learned this firsthand. And a surprising amount of that “stuff” uses extra energy at home.

While saving energy may not be your first worry when you have a new baby (if you’re like me, it’s how to get any extra sleep you possibly can), it’s not difficult to take advantage of your nice new baby items while also saving as much energy as possible. Here are a few ideas for saving energy and money when you bring home a new baby:

  • If you use a swing for naps, turn if off once baby goes to sleep. Many parents find the swing to be indispensable, and we were among them. Our daughter took many naps in her swing. We have one that plugs into an outlet so we don’t have to change batteries frequently, but it of course still uses electricity. We often found that once the swing…………… continues on ECNmag.com

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Poor parenting gets the blame for riots: Clegg’s panel of experts highlights …

Posted by on Wednesday, 28 March, 2012

Poor parenting gets the blame for riots: Clegg’s panel of experts highlights …
News from Daily Mail:

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Poor parenting was a key factor behind last year’s riots, an official inquiry has concluded.

The Riots, Communities and Victims panel cited school and police failures and a lack of values among young people as important causes of the looting and violence that gripped English cities last August.

The committee, consisting of experts from the voluntary and public sectors, also said rioters were driven by a desire for luxury goods in its findings published today.

Looters: The report by the The Riots, Communities and Victims panel drew stark contrast between the good and evil

The report, commissioned by Deputy Prime Minister Nick Clegg, identified 500,000 ‘forgotten families’ which it said had been left to ‘bump along the bottom’ of society.

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“Screwed up” parenting: Ill. couple accused of forcing boy to eat screws, do …
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Lashawn Jennings (left), and James Jennings (right)

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(CBS) BELLEVILLE, Ill. – The adoptive mother of an Illinois boy who police say was forced by his stepfather to do hundreds of pushups and eat two screws as punishment has been charged with misdemeanor child endangerment.

Prosecutors in St. Clair County charged Lashawn Jennings, 39, on Saturday. Her husband, James Jennings, already had been charged with aggravated battery, domestic battery and child endangerment. He remains jailed on $ 400,000 bond.

CBS St. Louis reports police began investigating last week after the 12-year-old boy reported the alleged abuse to a nurse at an elementary school, who then discovered bruises on the child’s back and arms.

Investigators said the child was beaten and tortured by Jennings earlier that morning at their home on Scott Air Force Base property.

The Belleville News Democrat reports that the boy was severely punished because he got crumbs on the floor after eating cookies. St. Clair County Sheriff’s Office Capt. Steve Johnson said James Jennings beat the boy with a wooden paddle, made him eat…………… continues on CBS News

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Facenook Parenting: For the troubled teen – father teaches daughter lesson about facebook Please Subscribe to my channel thanks! Warning: Since this video seems to have gone crazy, I figure I’ll post this notice. I’m going to read a letter my 15 year old daughter wrote. There ARE some curse words in it. None of them are incredibly bad, but they are definitely things a little kid shouldn’t hear… not to mention things MY KID shouldn’t say! If you want to see the original Facebook thread, it’s located at: www.facebook.com ———————————————————————————————- Facenook Parenting: For the troubled teen – father teaches daughter lesson about facebook ———————————————————————————————- My daughter thought it would be funny/rebellious/cool to post on her Facebook wall just how upset she was and how unfair her life here is; how we work her too hard with chores, never pay her for chores, and just in general make her life difficult. She chose to share this with the entire world on Facebook and block her parent’s from seeing it. Well, umm… she failed. As of the end of this video, she won’t have to worry anymore about posting inappropriate things on Facebook… Maybe a few kids can take something away from this… If you’re so disrespectful to your parents and yourself as to post this kind of thing on Facebook, you’re deserving of some tough love. Today, my daughter

PARENTING COLUMN: Humility does more good than a high self-esteem

Posted by on Tuesday, 27 March, 2012

PARENTING COLUMN: Humility does more good than a high self-esteem
News from Muncie Star Press:

Q: I recently heard you speak in San Diego and need some clarification. While I understand that researchers have found that high self-esteem is not what it was cracked up to be, I want my kids to approach the challenges of life with confidence in their abilities. There’s got to be a reconciliation point here. What is it?

A: Excellent question! First, researchers have indeed found that high self-esteem doesn’t live up to its hype. In fact, it’s not a desirable characteristic at all. The general finding has been that people with high regard for themselves have equally low regard for others. Yes, they feel really good about themselves (the sales pitch), but they tend to be seriously lacking in sensitivity to anyone else.

The desirable attribute is humility. That was known thousands of years ago, proving once again that there is nothing new under the sun. Humble people pay attention to others, look for opportunities to serve and are modest when it comes to their accomplishments. People with high self-esteem want attention, expect others to do things for them and tend to crow about their achievements.

Where confidence is concerned, there is no evidence to suggest that humble and confident are incompatible. By all accounts, George Washington was a very humble man who was more than a tad uncomfortable in the spotlight he’d been thrust into. Yet without th…………… continues on Muncie Star Press

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Political adviser talks parenting
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Cindy Adams

Bay Buchanan. Former US Treasurer. Current Romney adviser. Always, single parent to three sons. “Dumped into the world of mom and pop parenting,” she’s now author of “Bay and her Boys: Unexpected Lessons I Learned as a (Single) Mom.”

“Writing this wasn’t easy. Took a year. I set my computer up nicely in a room. Then one son, his wife and two children arrived for the summer. Seeing me straining, they’d ask, ‘Music too loud? . . . Don’t want to disturb the house writer.’ Eventually, I’d pull articles from home, pack them along and work in three different libraries.

“Finally, I settled into Starbucks four-five hours at a time. My brother called me a squatter. I’d rent the table. Sit there eating chips. They knew me as ‘California Tortilla.’ I’d have a roll, hot chocolate, I put on 10 pounds. I didn’t mind the talking behind me. The key was I needed uninterruption. Au pairs and nannies drive you crazy. Kids running around, I’m done.

“A parent alone gives up expectations. Kids first. I learned to sacrifice across the board. Couldn’t socialize after work. Can’t do a pizza with friends. Must be home when they get home. Give up weekends. Saturday’s a day to be with them. If any guy wants to take me out Fridays? I can’t.

“My mom made spectacular dinners. Me, spaghetti and sauce. A lot. For…………… continues on New York Post

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Parenting’s beautiful, terrible risks

Posted by on Monday, 26 March, 2012

Parenting’s beautiful, terrible risks
News from Cincinnati.com:

One of the most heart-breakingly beautiful acts in the world is responding to personal tragedy by trying to make the world better, safer or kinder for someone else.

Collin Barton’s father Sean acted in such a manner this week.

Collin, a well-liked 16-year-old from Terrace Park, died apparently after being struck by a car while walking home from a party early last Sunday. On Wednesday, his father released a public message of gratitude for support, and poignant advice for parents and kids.

It is wisdom we desperately need, from a source we can’t ignore. Although we never say the words aloud, every parent knows they are only one unforeseeable event, ill-considered decision or bad stroke of luck from heartbreak.

It’s the thought that wakens us in the still of the night, as we sit bolt upright to remember if we’ve heard the front door open.

It’s the imprecise calculation that makes us, at the start of every venture – sending our child off to camp, signing them up for the choir trip, trusting them in a young driver’s car – add up the advantages and risks and do some magic calculation to decide if the kids stay or go.

It’s the constant balancing act between caution and over-control, timidness and recklessness, risk and reward.

But we truly know that parenting means never really getting to the safe center of anything.

It…………… continues on Cincinnati.com

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‘Scary Mommy’ keeping challenges of parenting real
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BALTIMORE, MD – It’s almost any new parent’s dream, the magic of a newborn baby.

However, the quiet naps and joyful moments are often overshadowed by sleepless nights and endless crying. So who can you talk to when you’re at wits end? Why not The Scary Mommy?

“Sometimes it’s hard to talk to your family about problems as a mom,” Jill Smokler said. “It can be frustrating, but when you go online or to a chat room, it’s easier to meet other moms dealing with the same problems.”

More than four years ago, Smoker launched her blog site, Scary Mommy , to hold herself more accountable as a parent.

“With my first two kids, I was horrible at keeping photos and ‘firsts,’ so I figured since I was online all the time, I would just attempt to put it out there and see if I kept better track of it that way,” she said.

“On my first post, I apologized,” she added. “I wrote ‘Friends and family, I’m sorry I have another project you can follow along with. This probably won’t last very long.’ I thought maybe it would last six months.”

That was then, and this is now. Today, Scary Mommy boasts more than a million monthly views, more than 33,000 “likes” on Facebook and 216,000 followers on Twitter.

“It’s strange, a very funny thing to put yourself out there,” she said. “I have people in North…………… continues on ABC15.com (KNXV-TV)

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Real Parenting: Michael and Melissa Del Pietro

Posted by on Sunday, 25 March, 2012

Real Parenting: Michael and Melissa Del Pietro
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Michael and Melissa Del Pietro have three sons, own five restaurants and will be opening three more soon. That’s why, when it comes to keeping their family on a tight schedule and keeping the communication lines open, Melissa is a true believer. “We’re very busy like most people, however, my husband and I always make sure that we sit down and have family dinners, even breakfast as much as possible,” says Melissa. “He comes home for dinner and heads back to work when finished. We believe open communication makes a good bond, and we hope it continues when they’re teens.”

How does your mealtime timetable work with Michael’s restaurant schedule?

Fridays and Saturdays don’t usually pan out. But the other five days we all eat together. Meal time is talk time in our family. Our kids are so open with so many details during the meal. They talk to us about school, about girls and they even ask us questions about the restaurants. Some evenings they talk to us about our employees and want to know how they’re doing.

What about breakfast?

It’s hard to believe, but we meet for breakfast, too. In the morning, the kids start their baths, I make breakfast, Michael gets up, and we all sit down together. It’s not a long meal, and let me tell you it’s rushed some mornings, but this gives us a chance to see w…………… continues on STLtoday.com

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Website devoted to parenting teens
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MURFREESBORO — A Middle Tennessee man has created a website in an effort to help other parents find a positive way to get through the teenage years with their children.

Former youth minister Jeremy Lee told the Daily News Journal that his approach is “raising Beaver Cleaver kids in a Beavis and Butt-head world.” He said his focus is teens, who have a multitude of negative influences, from violent video games to explicit movies and music.

Lee hopes to improve family dynamics with the site, www.parentzilla.com. It has resources for parents that include a YouTube video series, two e-books, blogs, tweets and Facebook updates. It also includes a place for parents of teens to share their experiences with others or ask questions.

“The concept of Parentzilla is if you change a teenager, you change the family. One day I realized I was seeing great teenagers graduate. But I started to realize there were great families, too. The thought came to my mind, if you want to change a teenager, you’ve got to change the family,” said Lee, who also teaches parenting classes in Murfreesboro.

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Church readies parenting program

Posted by on Saturday, 24 March, 2012

Church readies parenting program
News from Port Huron Times Herald:

Though Light of Christ Lutheran Church is barely two years old, its members already are trying to change the world.

The church, at 4053 Ravenswood Road, is preparing to launch Parent Central in May — a pilot effort that will offer classes once a week to area parents. Speakers will be brought in to discuss a variety of topics for parents of children of all ages.

“We want to reach out to all parents and help people become more effective at parenting,” the Rev. Paul Kruse said. “This is something we believe God is calling us to do to serve our community.”

The program has been about nine months in the making. Organizers will start the program with a trial run in May with hopes of going full time in September.

Sessions begin May 1 and will be from 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. each Tuesday during the month.

“The plan is in September to begin doing this on a weekly basis so that people know that every week we’ll reach out to parents in our community,” Kruse said.

A team of people at the church have made it possible, he said: Colleen Richmond, Michelle Shaeffer, Tammy Beebe, Cheryl Ferres, Scott and Sandy Magneson, Angie Beauchamp, Aaron and Heather Politowicz, Deb Langan and Denise Reno.

“We’re trying to help parents that are struggling to help build strong, healthy kids,” said Richmond of St. Clair Township.

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Tenn. website devoted to parenting teens
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MURFREESBORO, Tenn. (WTW) — A Middle Tennessee man has created a website in an effort to help other parents find a positive way to get through the teenage years with their children.

Former youth minister Jeremy Lee told the Daily News Journal (http://on.dnj.com/zzuXn9 ) that his approach is “raising Beaver Cleaver kids in a Beavis and Butt-head World.” He said his focus is teens, who have a multitude of negative influences from violent video games to explicit movies and music.

Lee says he hopes to improve family dynamics with the site, www.parentzilla.com. It has resources for parents that include a YouTube video series, two e-books, blogs, tweets and Facebook updates. It also includes a place for teen parents to share their experiences with others or ask questions.

“The concept of Parentzilla is if you change a teenager, you change the family. One day I realized I was seeing great teenagers graduate . But I started to realize there were great families, too. The thought came to my mind, if you want to change a teenager, you’ve got to change the family,” Lee said, who also teaches parenting classes in Murfreesboro. “What I try to help parents about is accidental adolescence. I help them develop a strategy to enjoy a strong finish to their parenting journey.”

Some of the topics that his website has information on include man…………… continues on Appleton Post Crescent

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Parenting class March 30 to help parents with challenges of divorce

Posted by on Friday, 23 March, 2012

Parenting class March 30 to help parents with challenges of divorce
News from Kearney Hub:

KEARNEY — Cooperative Parenting and Divorce, a class for divorced parents, will be from 1-5 p.m. March 30.

The class, offered by the Center for Psychological Services, will help parents facing the challenges associated with divorce and family separation.

This class is designed to:

– Help parents design a workable and age appropriate parenting plan.

– Educate parents on the effect their conflict has on their children.

– Explain children’s issues in divorce.

– Teach parents to enhance skills they need to manage anger, increase impulse control, resolve conflict and talk to each other without arguing.

Parents will receive a certificate of attendance, which qualifies for court-required parenting classes.

The class will be at the Region 3 conference room. Attendees must register by going to Region 3 at 4111 Fourth Ave., Suite 32.

The cost is $ 40 per person.

For more information, contact the Center for Psychological Services PC at 234-6029.

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Co-Parenting Advice: Why You Need To ‘Grieve’ Your Failed Marriage (VIDEO)
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In the middle of a divorce, how do you shift away from fighting with your former spouse toward focusing on your children’s well-being?

First, you’ll have to “emotionally divorce” yourself from your spouse, said Larry Friedberg, a Michigan-based psychologist specializing in helping children through divorce, who spoke with FOX 2 News Morning Friday.

“Every expert is telling people [to put the kids first], but not everyone is getting that,” said Friedberg, who will be speaking at a Michigan divorce expo this weekend. “People have to go through a process of grieving from the relationship and disengagement from their relationship and recognizing that that is hard to do — there’s s…………… continues on Huffington Post

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